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Sailor Jerri’s Seven C’s
Sex, sexuality, health, and the social ethics related to these topics can make one feel lost as sea. I consistently return to the “Seven C’s” as a compass to navigate these choppy waters. So what are the “Seven C’s”?
1. Consent
2. Constructs
3. Confidence
4. Communication
5. Connection
6. Community
7. Credibility
Keys to Successful Communication & Blocks to Effective Listening
Nonviolent Communication is based on the principles of nonviolence-- the natural state of compassion when no violence is present in the heart.
Hone your skills with this hand communication handout (Perfect to post on the refrigerator).
Growth, Development, and Sexual Health Checklists: For Parents and Children
Growth, Development, and Sexual Health Checklists:
* Prepare Yourself: Formulating a Plan of Action Checklist
* Establishing a Foundation Checklist
* Vocabulary Checklist
* Elementary School Checklist
* Middle School Checklist
* High School Checklist
Oh Joy Sex Toy by Erika Moen
OhJoySexToy.com
Erika Moen and Matthew Nolan’s widely acclaimed Oh Joy Sex Toy (OJST) is a free weekly sex education webcomic that debuted April 2013 and updates every Tuesday.
It covers everything sex related from, sexuality and the sex industry, to toys, workshops, birth control and much more.
Jamye Waxman
JamyeWaxman.com
Jamye Waxman is now a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist Intern who specializes in working with individuals, couples and groups on many issues, especially those that pertain to sexuality, LGBTQI issues, romantic relationships and parenting. Before therapy, she had a career as a sex educator. She is internationally recognized for her contributions to the sex and media community. In 2005, Wired.Com dubbed her “the next generation of sex educator.”
Jiz Lee
JizLee.com
Jiz Lee has worked in the adult industry for over a decade, spanning independent erotic films and hardcore gonzo pornography. A versatile performer and key player in the queer porn movement, Jiz has been the recipient of multiple AVN and XBiz Award industry nominations and Feminist Porn Awards, and in 2015 was named an honoree of The Trans 100. (Jiz is nonbinary and uses the gender-neutral pronouns: they/them.) In 2007, Jiz began to blog their adventures in the adult industry on JizLee.com. Their writing has since appeared in The Feminist Porn Book, Best Sex Writing, and Global Information Society Watch: Sexual Rights and the Internet. They are the co-editor of the Porn Studies Journal Special Issue: Porn and Labour. Their first book, Coming Out Like a Porn Star was named “Best Sex Work Books” by Reason Magazine and is the largest collection of essays written by porn professionals about their industry.
Dr. Ruth
DrRuth.com
Dr. Ruth Westheimer is a psychosexual therapist who pioneered speaking frankly about sexual matters on radio with her program, Sexually Speaking. It began in September of 1980 as a fifteen minute, taped show that aired Sundays after midnight on WYNY-FM (NBC) in New York. One year later it became a live, one-hour show airing at 10 PM on which Dr. Ruth, as she became known, answered call-in questions from listeners. Soon it became part of a communications network to distribute Dr. Westheimer's expertise which has included television, books, newspapers, games, home video, computer software and her own website.
Carol Queen
CarolQueen.com
A writer, speaker, educator and activist with a doctorate in sexology. Helped found one of the first gay youth groups in the United States. “I typically teach and write from my own experience and that of my communities even as I reference academic thought on these subjects.”. Queen is also the Staff Sexologist and Good Vibrations Historian at Good Vibrations.
Betty Dodson PhD
DodsonAndRoss.com
Betty Dodson, artist, author, and PhD sexologist has been one of the principal voices for women's sexual pleasure and health for over three decades. Betty continues her private practice as a sex coach in New York City (click here for details). Her first book, Liberating Masturbation: A Meditation on Selflove (’74) became a feminist classic. Sex for One (’87) sold over a million copies. Orgasms for Two (’02) embraces partner sex. Most recently she released My Romantic Love Wars: A Sexual Memoir that details her experiences with America's Sexual Revolution, the women's movement and her feminist sexual activism. In 2011, Betty received the public service award from SSSS (Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality) and the MASTERS AND JOHNSON AWARD presented by SSTAR (Society for Sex Therapy and Research). Betty was recently named one of the top ten sexual revolutionaries by Cosmopolitan magazine and number 43 of the 100 most important people in sex by Playboy Magazine.
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Our Bodies, Ourselves by Boston Women's Health Book Collective Review
- Sailor Jerri
Title and Subtitle: Our Bodies, Ourselves: A New Edition for a New Era
Author: Boston Women's Health Book Collective & Judy Norsigian
Publisher: Touchstone
Publishing Year & Edition: 4 edition (April 19, 2005)
Intended Audience/Reader Age-Group: All Ages
Description: An encyclopedia-style resource for Health and Sex, focused on female health but it covers all bodies.
Official Description: “America's best-selling book on all aspects of women's health With more than four million copies sold, "Our Bodies, Ourselves" is "the" classic resource that women of all ages can turn to for information about every aspect of their well-being. Completely revised for the first time in a decade, these pages give women everything they need for making key decisions about their health -- from definitive information from today's leading experts to personal stories from other women just like them. This updated edition of "Our Bodies, Ourselves" includes the latest on: - Nutrition and exercise - Relationships, sexuality, and sexual health - Complementary health practices - Reproductive choices, pregnancy, and childbearing - Growing older - Medical testing and procedures Together with its companion website (www.ourbodiesourselves.org), "Our Bodies, Ourselves" is a one-stop resource for women of all generations. Plus: The rearranged food pyramid, a chapter about sexual orientation and gender identity, advice for making safer sex more fun, the latest on breast-feeding, support for women experiencing pregnancy loss, and a section devoted to getting the best care in today's complicated healthcare system.” - OurBodiesOurselves.org
Overview: A necessary resource for all families with kids. This is the perfect go-to encyclopedia for kids to have access to age-appropriate facts. Includes anatomy and risk reduction tools as well as social and moral influence discussions related to sex and health.
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Our Bodies, Ourselves: Menopause Review
- Sailor Jerri
Title and Subtitle: Our Bodies, Ourselves: Menopause
Author: Boston Women's Health Book Collective (Author), Judy Norsigian (Author), Vivian Pinn (Preface)
Publisher: Touchstone
Publishing Year & Edition: 1 edition (October 3, 2006)
Intended Audience/Reader Age-Group: Intended for Menopausal women or anyone curious about Menopause
Description: A encylopedia-style guide on menopause. Includes medical facts, biological effects, and discusses personal and social issues related to menopause.
Official Description: “From the editors of the classic “Bible of Women's Health,” a trustworthy, up-to-date guide to help every woman navigate the menopause transition. Our Bodies, Ourselves: Menopause provides an in-depth look at subjects such as hormone therapy and sexuality as well as proven strategies for coping with challenges like hot flashes, mood swings, and night sweats. In clear, accessible language, the book dispels menopause myths and provides crucial information that women can use to take control of their own health and get the best care possible. Our Bodies, Ourselves: Menopause is an essential resource for women who are experiencing—or expecting—menopause.” -OurBodiesOurselves.org/publications/menopause/
Overview: Did you mother get you a copy of “Our Bodies, Ourselves” from your mother? Return the favor and get her a copy of “Our Bodies, Ourselves: Menopause”. Menopause is often a confusing time, changes are happening and it is a topic that (although most women experience it at some point in their lives) can be embarrassing to discuss. This book is the perfect resource to go to for information and questions regarding menopause. I highly recommend it for anyone’s personal library.
Trans Bodies, Trans Selves by Erickson-Schroth Review
- Sailor Jerri
Title and Subtitle: Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community
Author: Laura Erickson-Schroth (Editor)
Publisher: Oxford University Press
Publishing Year & Edition: 1 edition (June 10, 2014)
Intended Audience/Reader Age-Group: All Ages
Description: Transitioning can be a confusing period for a person and those around them. Trans Bodies is an encyclopedia style resource all about transitioning, trans folks, and even accounts of personal transition experiences.
Official Description: “There is no one way to be transgender. Transgender and gender non-conforming people have many different ways of understanding their gender identities. Only recently have sex and gender been thought of as separate concepts, and we have learned that sex (traditionally thought of as physical or biological) is as variable as gender (traditionally thought of as social). While trans people share many common experiences, there is immense diversity within trans communities. There are an estimated 700,000 transgendered individuals in the US and 15 million worldwide. Even still, there's been a notable lack of organized information for this sizable group. Trans Bodies, Trans Selves is a revolutionary resource-a comprehensive, reader-friendly guide for transgender people, with each chapter written by transgender or genderqueer authors. Inspired by Our Bodies, Ourselves, the classic and powerful compendium written for and by women, Trans Bodies, Trans Selves is widely accessible to the transgender population, providing authoritative information in an inclusive and respectful way and representing the collective knowledge base of dozens of influential experts. Each chapter takes the reader through an important transgender issue, such as race, religion, employment, medical and surgical transition, mental health topics, relationships, sexuality, parenthood, arts and culture, and many more. Anonymous quotes and testimonials from transgender people who have been surveyed about their experiences are woven throughout, adding compelling, personal voices to every page. In this unique way, hundreds of viewpoints from throughout the community have united to create this strong and pioneering book. It is a welcoming place for transgender and gender-questioning people, their partners and families, students, professors, guidance counselors, and others to look for up-to-date information on transgender life.” - TransBodies.com
Overview: This resource is a necessity for anyone who is transitioning or has someone they love in their life who is transitioning. It is also a great tool for folks who are just curious about the facts related to Transitioning and are looking for a quality source for facts.
The Guide To Getting It On by Joannides Review
- Sailor Jerri
Title and Subtitle: Guide To Getting It On
Author: Paul Joannides Psy.D. (Author), Daerick Gröss Sr. (Illustrator)
Publisher: Goofy Foot Press
Publishing Year: 8th edition edition (April 7, 2015)
Intended Audience/Reader Age-Group: 18+
Description: A FANTASTIC introductory guide to sex and pleasure. This book doesn’t delve into any specific subject too deeply but it covers a ton of subjects in overview form.
Official Description: “The Guide To Getting It On! is a sexuality guide by research psychoanalyst Paul Joannides, illustrated by the comic book artist Dærick Gröss” - GuideToGettingItOn.com
Overview: This is a great book to get if you are just curious about general sex and pleasure. When you read it you may find that you want to get additional books that delve deeper into specific subject covered in-brief in this book.
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Cunt: A Declaration of Independence by Muscio Review
- Sailor Jerri
Title and Subtitle: Cunt: A Declaration of Independence
Author: Inga Muscio (Author), Ph.D. Betty Dodson (Foreword)
Publisher: Seal Press
Publishing Year & Edition: 2nd edition (October 15, 2002)
Intended Audience/Reader Age-Group: Intended for 18+, but really for anyone who is sexually active
Description: A guide to language and female empowerment. Includes articles on history, etymology, geography, anatomy, pleasure and more!
Official Description: “An ancient title of respect for women, the word “cunt” long ago veered off this noble path. Inga Muscio traces the road from honor to expletive, giving women the motivation and tools to claim “cunt” as a positive and powerful force in their lives. In this fully revised edition, she explores, with candidness and humor, such traditional feminist issues as birth control, sexuality, jealousy between women, and prostitution with a fresh attitude for a new generation of women. Sending out a call for every woman to be the Cuntlovin’ Ruler of Her Sexual Universe, Muscio stands convention on its head by embracing all things cunt-related. This edition is fully revised with updated resources, a new foreword from sexual pioneer Betty Dodson, and a new afterword by the author.” - IngaLagringa.com
Overview: An INCREDIBLE book! A must-have for any feminist men and women alike. “Cunt” is not a dirty word and this book helps to explain that. It is an excellent resource for anyone who is working on body-positivity and self-love. One of my personal favorite books!
Getting Off by Waxman Review
- Sailor Jerri
Title and Subtitle: Getting Off : A Woman's Guide to Masturbation
Author: Jamye Waxman (Author) Molly Crabapple (Illustrator) Betty A. Dodson (Forward)
Publisher: Seal Press
Publishing Year & Edition: 2007
Intended Audience/Reader Age-Group: 18+, but really anyone interested in vagina-haver masturbation
Description: A playful and approachable guide to vagina-haver mastubation. This book includes anatomical information, historical facts, and sex toy guides as well as mastubation tips, tricks and advice.
Official Description: “Fun, informative, and illustrated, this book provides women with a wealth of masturbation and general sex knowledge -- its history, the mechanics of it, the joys of sexy toys -- plus clear, concise tips on... well... getting off.” - JamyeWaxman.com
Overview: Fist off Jamye Waxman is an INCREDIBLE educator and author, and all of her title are worth owning. Secondly this is my FAVORITE of all her titles. It is incredibly easy to read and it clearly demystifies a very complicated subject. This is a great book to get before buying your first sex toy or if you are struggling with orgasming.
Notes: Although the title of the guide says “Woman’s Guide” it is focused on vagina-havers
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